Gentleman is a big word. So many of us want or lets say try to be one. But not everyone gets the point when we are talking about the real definition of a gentleman. When I say real, I don’t want to judge anyone. I just think that there’s a difference between being a gentleman naturally or acting/pretending to be one. Because it’s not only about clothes, even though it’s a great tool to help you to look and therefore feel like a gentleman.
One of the most popular quotes you may know goes like this: A gentleman is one who puts more into the world than he takes out. And I think that this might be the whole point. Being a gentleman has less to do with one’s status but with your attitude and therefore how you treat other people. So it doesn’t really matter what kind of watch you’re wearing, which car you’re driving or what trendy new haircut you’re going for next. It’s about treating people with respect, women and men at every age, no matter if you like to date them or not. A kind of „ladies first“, a simple coffee invitation or just asking how’s a person feeling today – this is all it needs. To be able to do that it needs maturity, self-awareness, reflection and courtesy. Honestly, I don’t know why many men are struggling with that. Sure, everyone is selfish from time to time and focused on his own way. You just have to treat the people like you want to be treated. If you treat them badly or unfriendly, don’t be surprised if you get the same kind of behaviour as a reaction.
For sure, gentleman are usually defined by the outer appearance. But a beautiful, tailor-made suit or an expensive car can also bluff the vis-à-vis. So it’s the physical and mental strength, attitude and values (and some more aspects) which defines this big word as well. It you want to be a gentleman, don’t pretend to be the perfect rich guy but just the best version of yourself - the authentic and kind version.
Take care & write you soon…